Little Pessima, Rosebud, Sweet Briar Rose, Mrs. George Lathrop, Mother Mary Alphonsa — and as of March 2024, Venerable Servant of God Rose Hawthorne. The youngest child of Nathaniel and Sophia Hawthorne was known by several names throughout her life, and her path to being recognized as a venerable servant of God was anything but straightforward. Like everyone, she experienced numerous joys and sorrows during her existence. We all seek love in various forms, and Rose was no exception. The true story of her life is how the love of God manifested in and through these experiences of joy and sorrow — guiding her from a nurturing New England upbringing to discovering her profoundest joy in embodying a unique kind of bride and mother — a partner of Christ and a spiritual caregiver to the afflicted poor in the tenements of New York City and the ridges of Westchester County.
Rose entered the world on May 20, 1851, as the third offspring of renowned writer Nathaniel Hawthorne and his extraordinary spouse Sophia (née Peabody). Both parents provided exceptional intellectual abilities and a commitment to learning for their offspring. Even more significantly, they presented their children with a model of profound affection and strong devotion to one another, creating a nurturing and joyful household. Theirs was a marriage of equals in spirit and mind, according to all reports.
A happy childhood
Upon Rose’s arrival, her family had recently relocated from Salem to Lenox, Massachusetts. Many years afterwards, in a letter for Rose’s 16th birthday, Sophia affectionately recounted those initial days:
… I do not know as there is yet any language in which I can convey to you an adequate idea of how I love you and have loved you since I first saw your tiny form. … Your babyhood was most lovely and sunny. Grandpa used to declare that you did not know how to cry. You showed the most philosophical patience in attaining your ends. If one way failed, you tried another way, and all in perfect quiet and repose. … This calm intent outlook which you maintained, before you could speak, won for you the title of Lord Chancellor the Dispenser of Equity. … You were very critical in your observations, and one day, when you did not fancy the appearance of Grandpapa, he could not induce you to pass over the described line, till he took out his watch, when with protesting, dignified air, you condescended to approach. I think you inherited from Papa this immitigable demand for beauty and order and right, though in the course of your development it could make you pettish and unreasonable. I was always glad you had it, because I know the impatience and crossness it often caused, would prove a transient phase. …
Rose at approximately age 6 or 7.
As can be observed from this correspondence, Rose was blessed with profoundly caring parents. Nathaniel was just as devoted to her in his messages and undoubtedly in his everyday interactions, although the acclaim of his most notable novel, “The Scarlet Letter,” along with his role as American consul, meant he spent less time with her compared to his older children. He affectionately referred to her as “Dear Little Pessima” and kindly admonished her when she struck her brother and sister at the age of 4. Another note commenced with, “MY DEAR LITTLE ROSEBUD,– I have placed a kiss for you in this lovely, clean piece of paper. I will fold it up with care, and I trust it will not fall out before it reaches (you).” When Rose turned 5, she composed her first letter to him. In large cursive script, she stated: “dear papa, darling, sweet, dear, I have written it. 1856. Rose.”
Rose at roughly age 16. All photos courtesy of Dominican Congregation of St. Rose of Lima (Dominican Sisters of Hawthorne)
A new life abroad
In 1853, the family relocated to Liverpool, England, as Nathaniel commenced his new role as American consul. After five years, the family departed from England and journeyed across the continent, encompassing time in Italy, where Rose was deeply engaged in Catholicism. By 1860, they had returned to New England and established themselves once more in Concord at their former residence, the Wayside. Upon their re-entry into the United States, Nathaniel’s health started to deteriorate for reasons that were unclear. On May 19, 1864, the day preceding Rose’s 13th birthday, he passed away from this mysterious ailment, which some now suggest may have been stomach cancer. Following this heartbreaking loss of a cherished husband and father, Sophia endeavored to provide for her family, educate her children, and manage her own sorrow with a love and faith that was incredible. In her correspondence, she eloquently conveyed both her profound grief and her belief that she would reunite with him in the afterlife. Rose’s education was sponsored by a family acquaintance who, in exchange, appreciated the presence of young Rose during her studies. Sophia corresponded with her sister in 1868, “Rose is presently in (school), and Mary Loring’s assistance in this significant endeavor has alleviated a considerable worry and burden for me. For Rose is eager to learn, and it felt unkind not to provide her with an opportunity.” Sophia consistently recognized in her youngest daughter a thirst for understanding, beauty, and truth and supported her quest for these items. In the same correspondence for Rose’s 16th birthday, Sophia penned: